Tag: comfort

In today’s culture, individuals are on high alert about abuse and harassment issues to the extent that the quest for meaningful relationships is affected by concerns about whether or not a person is trustworthy.

Nevertheless, the need for belonging, the desire for close relationships and the yearning for emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual intimacy beat away in human beings. Taking risks and making ourselves vulnerable to each other in forming connections is always fraught with a certain amount of anxiety; there is yet one more hurdle in the process of meeting and mating. Where, we ask, are we safe? How do we conduct ourselves in daily relationships?

"Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be.”  ~ Heath Buckmaster

Lately when I am up in the middle of the night pondering (some might say ruminating) on the sea changes moving through my life, I remember that if I can’t change my mind, I can’t change anything else.

It’s ironic because often during the daylight hours, I am the instigator of change, the one leading the charge to shift the strategic initiatives of Good Clean Love, or the one haplessly leading a bevy of subcontractors in a new home construction.

When it comes to the discussion of sex, we all know that married sex has been given a bad rap. When we think of marriage and sex, very often words like boring, predictable and infrequent readily come to mind. With all the focus in film and novels on passionate, clandestine encounters between strangers who hardly know each other, married people can be left to feel that they are missing out on all the excitement. If we were to really pay attention to the hype, many of us would walk away from our marriages because we thought we were being short-changed. If we were to honestly assess the state of married sex, however, we would find many benefits of sex in a marital union.

A crisis can come at any time in your life no matter who you are. it is a normal part of life that can be a blessing in disguise or a complete nightmare. It’s like a hurricane that leaves line of destruction of everything in its path except some plants, trees, and buildings that were able to withstand its impact. Life as we know it changes forever, and no matter how desperately we want it back, there is no going back.

We all have our favorite seasons. My wife’s is summer. She loves the heat. My neighbor’s is winter. He yearns for the cold. Me? I prefer fall. Cool. Colorful. Brisk.

We experience seasons in life too. They come and they go. We each have our own winters, springs, summers, and falls.

Do you find yourself frustratedly stuck in the same patterns? You may not even notice it’s a pattern. However, if you spend some time to think on it, you’ll see a pattern. We all have them.

Maybe it’s a tired argument with your partner/spouse. Perhaps it’s a certain frustrating dynamic between you and someone else. How about this one? You want to get something done but you decide to take a peek at social media… and 2 hours later… nothing is done.