Tag: emotion

A widespread problem that is difficult to understand is when one mate has difficulty showing emotions and affection, which then leaves the other family members to exist in a world of loneliness, disappointment and disrespect. Living with someone that is emotionally unavailable is a very common, yet subtle, form of disrespect. This disrespect is often misunderstood and is a destructive problem of major proportions that can be hard for couples to identify or resolve. However, many emotional mates struggle in these relationships blaming themselves when they are not able to fix the relationship. Without knowing the truth, the lack of emotion can destroy the ability to have a heartfelt love connection and creates bitterness as the emotional mate can lose their own heart, mind, identity, and soul in the process of trying to make it work.

Are you feeling suspicious about your partner’s new "friend?" If you’re like most people, it’s easy to question yourself and worry you’re being paranoid. (Especially if your partner vehemently denies any wrongdoing).

But just like a good detective can lift unseen prints from the scene of a crime, you too have access to subtle clues that might mean trouble. In fact, there is one very distinct sign that may indicate the presence of an affair:  You can feel your partner withdrawing emotionally.

"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror… Just keep going. No feeling is final." ~ Rainier Maria Rilke

We can’t choose which feelings we want to experience. What most people don’t realize in their selective attention to their feelings is that as we block our ability to feel any particular emotion, it actually impacts all of our emotional capacity—not just the things we are trying to avoid. This is the conundrum that chokes most people’s sexual drive because libido and emotion are so closely tied, and not only in our brain’s processing mechanism.

"Becoming fully conscious of our perceptions—simply feeling what we feel and knowing what we know—is the very definition of awakening. It creates a virtually indestructible foundation for lasting relationships, successful endeavors, and inner peace." ~ Martha Beck

Our emotional habits can become our emotional prison without even knowing it. They are the blind spot that everyone who knows us sees first about us, but one where we can be forever clueless. Like all habits, what we do all the time, becomes second nature to us, before we even reflect, the habit is taking over, leading us. But emotional habits are even more pervasive and in some ways harder to perceive and change because these habits are highly charged, having developed over years as a protective device to regulate our lives.

"So…how’s your relationship?" If someone asks you this question at the right time (after a big fight, for instance), it will unleash a flood of frustration: She’s too sensitive. The other day I suggested she forgo a second piece of cake—just because I care about her health, mind you—and she fell apart like a $2 watch!

Or, he’s like a robot. He doesn’t care about how I feel at all! Every time I try to talk about our marriage, he just shuts down. That makes me mad, so I keep pushing and pushing until we’re screaming at each other.

Touch has been shown to have long-lasting health benefits which are good for the brain and bonding. In fact, a study was done long ago that proved that if we are not touched as infants we can fail to survive. Touch is such an important part of every relationship we are in, whether it is that of a partner, a parent, a friend or a co-worker. Touch is an essential part of communication and connection.

Here are 7 amazing benefits to being a snuggle bug:

"Experiencing one’s self in a conscious manner–that is, gaining self-knowledge–is an integral part of learning." ~ Karen Stone McCown

People who are emotionally intelligent are seriously sexy. Fluency with one’s emotional life defines our ability to master most other life experiences. Being constantly caught between fight or flight is not flattering, and sadly our sex appeal bears its weight.