Tag: emotion

Usually we’re surprised by an affair because we’ve ignored the early warning signs, such as arguments that never got resolved, or built-up feelings of resentment due to diminishing communication and emotional and sexual interest. We don’t realize that these are the seeds of affairs. We don’t take these signs seriously because we think the issues will go away or resolve themselves. But they don’t. They unconsciously build momentum, and before we know it, we have found out that our partner has cheated…without us even knowing the marriage was in trouble.

No matter what your situation—if you did or didn’t know about the affair, or if you didn’t even know you had marriage problems—you don’t have to blame and shame yourself.