Tag: goals

Often, when we are told to "make peace with" something, it’s in a challenging context, as in "make peace with" your current weight, bank account, relationship, etc. And indeed, the only way to move forward toward whatever your desired goal is to first make peace with wherever you’re at in that journey. So yes, by all means, do that!

However, the one "make peace with" we rarely think about is to "make peace with your dreams." Too often, we dismiss our dreams and desires as too far-fetched, impossible, unreachable, and we stop before we start. Or we start, and then halfway there we figure, "Oh, this is ridiculous; I’ll never make it" so we give up on our dreams.

Setting goals for ourselves is what keeps us moving forward. It’s what creates innovation, growth, and is the reason we pursue anything new. We set a goal and work to reach it. In and of itself, goal-setting is positive. But if we don’t fully understand all that is involved in creating and achieving our goals we can easily sabotage the process.

Fortunately, this is a mindset that we can change, and here are 3 key points to remember:

Are you surprised to know that love tops the list of Americans' reasons to marry? Probably not. "About nine in ten Americans (88%) cited love as a fundamental reason to get married, ahead of making a lifelong commitment (81%) and companionship (76%)," according to a Pew Research Center survey."

Marriage is hard, so being in love is an excellent place to start the journey if you're going to do it. But if most people get married for love, why does the divorce rate still hover around 50% for first-timers and even higher for second and third marriages?

Many of my coaching clients lack energy and motivation because they are overworked and overwhelmed. This is burnout.

These clients say things like, "I can’t figure out what I want anymore."

My goal was to move them from this point to feeling adrenalized and excited about life. "Adrenalized" living is about feeling fulfilled, motivated, and confident. It’s a reminder that you have the choice to live the way you want. In every situation you can choose your adrenalized life.

Never let your mind underestimate just how far your feet are willing to take you. This article about goals was inspired by a memorable client named Andra. She hired me as her coach to help her mentally prepare for a two-day, 39-mile walk event to end breast cancer.

There were other criteria we were coaching to as well, but this was one of those big, audacious goals where she was starting off with a flutter of possibility in her heart and a big gulp in her throat.

Falling in love is a wonderful experience: The ecstasy of losing yourself in another’s eyes, the excitement of imagining a life together, the freedom of discovering the intimate secrets of another person. But we all know that after that initial love glow fades and the reality of learning to share your life with another—no matter how compatible—sets in, relationships require effort. And when the real work of building a relationship together begins, we all make mistakes along the way.

While we are all living in a mixed up, turned upside down world, there is a silver lining to the chaos. It is from the chaos that new dreams, breakthroughs and (r)evolutions will emerge. "Necessity is the mother of invention," as they say.

No matter where you are right now, whether you are riding the waves, so to speak, or being tossed around by the waves, change is happening. There has never been a time more ripe for a collective and individual renaissance. With so much up in the air, and so much structure broken open, you can choose to look for the opportunities within those cracked open spaces to step into a new life for yourself that is even more fulfilling and in alignment with who you are at your core.