The Sexpert

Don’t bother with the many how-to books on having a more fulfilling orgasm. The quick, easy and zero-cost answer to a more satisfying and intense orgasm is… drum roll please… Kegels. They are the best two minutes a day you could ever spend on the road to better sex. Before there's any eye rolling, please hear me out.

Brian, do you remember the Woody Allen movie where on a split screen, Mia Farrow says to her psychiatrist, "He constantly wants sex—three times a week." On the adjacent screen Woody Allen says, "We hardly ever have sex—three times a week?"

I believe women do want sex as much as men. The challenge, though, is that it has to be memorable sex.

Low libido one of the most common problems presented in sex therapy. It is estimated that approximately 20 percent of men and 33 percent of women are affected by low or absent sexual desire, and now drug companies are working to create a "pink Viagra" to boost women's libido. But are drug companies working to sell a product women don’t need? And is there anything inherently wrong with drug companies wanting to help women with a low libido?

Bringing sex toys into your relationship can be a way to invigorate a stale routine or max out an exciting one. Even a simple visit to an adult toy store or lingerie shop with your spouse can make a couple see what they’ve been missing or discover things that they never, ever want to try. It can be a time to break through walls and discuss secret fantasies or broach requests that may otherwise fester secretly into resentment and resignation.

However, there are some things to keep in mind when using sex toys and things you both should know from a medical standpoint before you start bringing home

In the 1998 movie You’ve Got Mail, Tom Hanks’ and Meg Ryan’s characters meet online in a chat room, they then start an innocent daily chat. Soon they are a lot more involved, leave their partner and end up, in rom-com style getting together. Happily ever after.

New Definition Of 'Cheating'
Twenty-five years ago, cheating was a black and white issue: you went behind your spouse’s back and had an affair.

A recent survey showed that couples who were together for 10 years or more with multiple children have great sex at least three times per week. Of those couples, 79 percent are absolutely satisfied with their sex life and wouldn’t change a thing.

Do you believe these numbers?

I made them up—but if I hadn’t told you, would you have stopped to question their validity, or simply believed that because they were in an article they were the absolute truth?

If you’ve ever read a book on getting your sex life back on track, inevitably the author espoused the benefits of bringing fantasy into your bedroom. I whole heartedly agree that fantasy—whether in your head, talked about with your spouse or acted out—is a simple way to add incredible zest. Best of all fantasy play is fun, easy and free.

So if fantasies are so great why don’t more couples indulge?