Tag: choice

Take a moment to take a closer look at your relationship with your spouse. How are things going between the two of you? What are some of your common interests and goals? Is your relationship everything you would like it to be? How would your spouse answer these same questions?

We live in a fast-paced world and maybe you are one of the many couples out there reacting to life instead of living it. So lets take a closer look at what living a designed relationship could look like.

Some Thanksgivings are harder than others. What I mean by that is that sometimes, our world may seem at such odds with itself that we’re hard-pressed to feel the gratitude we wish would come naturally.

The divisive political situation in our country pains many this year; it seems there’s no end to the conflicts and confrontations that divide rather than unite us.

And yet . . . I had the great pleasure of attending a performance of the hit musical "Hamilton" recently. Along with the sheer fun, exuberance and astonishing creativity of the work, there’s a profound truth that runs through it, which was brought out in one of the final scenes.

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot. Nothing is going to get better. It’s not. ~ Dr. Seuss

You already know that men and women often see things very differently. There are some real differences between the roles that men and women have in sustaining couple communication, trust and intimacy.

This isn’t something that most men will ever figure out. They need to be taught. You might even show him this article.

There is always much debate as to whether life itself is pre-destined. Does everything happen for a reason, or are we in fact in control of our own destiny?

I like to believe that we have a certain amount of control, but what sort of control do we actually have over our own lives? We can all dream, but unless we put those dreams into action, they will forever remain dreams.

First, there is the element of choice. While Shakespeare says, "To be or not to be," if we change his words to: "To do or not to do," this gives us choice.

We may not be out of the pandemic quite yet, but many of us are carving out a "new normal" for ourselves. Because let’s face it, life is not going back to what it was a mere two years ago. This actually is a good thing, because we have the opportunity to make new decisions, new choices for how we want to live going forward.

There was an adage my mother repeated endlessly: "Waste not, want not." Her objective was to get her children to eat everything on their plate, including the brussel sprouts. Yuck. At the time, I thought, well the dog will always eat the brussel sprouts slipped under the table so nothing wasted.

Would you like to feel that life is working for you, rather than against you? Does being in "flow state" sound like a mythical state of being or do you go there regularly?

Life right now is complicated and full of opportunities to dive deep into fear and worry. How can we live in a state of flow, trusting that life is offering to us exactly what we need?

You and I are old enough to know what we want and what we do not want. By now we also know who we are and who we are not. We definitely have a handle on what makes us happy and what gives us a knot in the stomach. And, we can identify the people we enjoy spending time with as opposed to those who make us wish we were getting our annual pap smear instead of sitting down for a visit or a cup of coffee.

We know… but do we trust ourselves to make good decisions based on this knowledge?