Insight

Most often, the term organic applies to our food or clothing. Rarely is it applied to our sexual appetite. To be called organic, food must be produced without any chemicals to induce or sustain its growth. The process relies on old-fashioned techniques of good soil, clean air and decent weather.

Small local farmers making food the old-fashioned way is in vogue now because chemical-driven and genetic altering of food is all too Sci-Fi. The more we know about the synthetic and petro-chemical process of producing food, the more we want the real stuff and we're willing to pay for organic food that comes from nature.

Who would have thought an innocent gesture of goodwill could cause so much confusion among friends, family, associates and even your spouse at a social function? When to kiss, how many kisses, left cheek, right cheek, both cheeks, lips or not? Have you ever greeted someone with a handshake and a cheery, "Hello" only to be surprised by an overbearing hug and a wet smooch on the lips? Regions and cultures often dictate kissing rules, but the bottom line to the kissing dilemma is this: When in doubt, don’t!

In the business world, the corporate environment plays a significant part in our decision to kiss or not to kiss.

A central agent of the erotic act, of eroticism, is the imagination…if that goes away, that’s when the breakdown of desire often occurs.—Esther Perel

I often tell couples that the sexiest part of their body is their brain. Usually, I am trying to get them to understand the connection between their olfactory system and the limbic section where memory, emotion and sexuality are activated. But the more I talk about it, the more I have come to realize that this is also a key entry point to our sexual imagination and our capacity for fantasy. We all have our own personal brand of eroticism—how sexuality is transformed by our imagination—but we don’t all have equal access to it.

The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens… because only then does one feel that all is as it should be… amidst the simple beauty of nature.—Anne Frank

I love when science proves a really useful theory. The New Science of Positivity (www.positivityratio.com), which focuses on mental health instead of mental illness, has just confirmed that in order to succeed at anything, one must maintain the ratio of three positive events to one negative event.

Love is an act of endless forgiveness.—Peter Ustinov

If love is a verb, then forgiveness is its partner in crime. It is the highest form of love and the single behavior that most distinguishes our human potential. In an ancient tale from the Kaballah, God told some angels in training that the capacity to forgive is the most excellent gift in the human experience, more essential to the continuity of life than the courage to sacrifice your own life for someone else or enduring the pain of giving life.

To fireproof your marriage while you ignite the passion this Valentine’s Day, there is only one relationship you need to heal—the one with yourself!...

How long has it been since Cupid’s arrow bulls-eyed your heart? On second thought, does Cupid even know where you live now? Is Valentine’s Day just like any other? If so, chances are that romance has—pardon the pun—Gone with the Wind. The wind is what buoys and thrills you to romantic heights. Now you find it has gusted away in Cupid’s wake. It happens. Life sometimes gets in the way and snuffs out passion. Things—even necessary ones—can sidetrack romance until it gets all muddled and loses its way.