Insight

The doorbell rings, and just as Justin crosses the threshold of his apartment he catches a whiff of—what’s that?—fresh roses. Sure enough, as...

It's almost Valentine's Day. Is this a day you are looking forward to? Or dreading? In my experience, women are more triggered by Valentine's Day forgetfulness or inattention than men. So, in the spirit of averting a Valentine's Day disaster in your marriage, this tip is for the ladies!

Are you excited about showing your love and affection; and letting that special man in your life know how much he means to you? Do you find yourself worrying that your Honey might forget to plan ahead and not send you flowers, buy Godiva Chocolate or that tennis bracelet you've been hinting you really want to have?

When it comes to Valentine’s Day, most husbands go into a tailspin trying to decide on the best choice of gifts for their wives. Candy, cards and flowers are some of the most common items purchased by men. Certainly it is easy for guys to walk into a store and purchase a box of chocolates or a card. The lazy guy can call a florist and have it delivered. Most men enjoy sexy lingerie, but few dare enter a store to purchase these lustful stimulating under things. Men know that purchasing lingerie can be risky. Here are some things to consider when deciding between lingerie, candy or even both.

Most often, the term organic applies to our food or clothing. Rarely is it applied to our sexual appetite. To be called organic, food must be produced without any chemicals to induce or sustain its growth. The process relies on old-fashioned techniques of good soil, clean air and decent weather.

Small local farmers making food the old-fashioned way is in vogue now because chemical-driven and genetic altering of food is all too Sci-Fi. The more we know about the synthetic and petro-chemical process of producing food, the more we want the real stuff and we're willing to pay for organic food that comes from nature.

"Sex-positive," a term that's coming into cultural awareness, isn't a dippy love-child celebration of orgone—it's a simple yet radical affirmation that we each grow our own passions on a different medium; instead of having two or three or even half a dozen sexual orientations, we should be thinking in terms of millions.
~Dr. Carol Queen

Orgasm is a product of a sexually healthy lifestyle, and sexual health is derived from positive sexual education.

"Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken." ~ Simone de Beauvoir

Scents of Seduction
Having an orgasm starts with feeling aroused. No arousal, no orgasm. Arousal begins in the brain, specifically the limbic area where our sense of smell intersects with our emotional process, our memory store and our sexuality. Vibrations of arousal and eventually orgasm live in the body and are triggered in the brain. Trust your sense of smell and indulge your olfactory in whatever scents turn you on.

"The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life." ~ Wilhelm Reich

Everyone wants to orgasm. This is just a fact of life and nature. Long ago, before pornography was everywhere, desire and lust still held a formative place in our human sexuality makeup—we all had a little more room to imagine orgasmic experience and less to compare ourselves to. With the advent of internet pornography, you can witness orgasms on demand, but that doesn’t mean you can make yourself or your spouse have one. Therein lies the conundrum of orgasms.