Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.
I’ve been faking orgasms and I don’t know how to stop. Do I just tell him? How do I tell him?
Studies show that about 55% of women occasionally fake orgasm, while 75% of women fake it at least once in their life.
Most of the faking happens, I believe, because we put far too much pressure on ourselves to perform in bed. Not only do our bedroom antics stop us from having great sex, we also lose touch with our erogenous zones and eventually disconnect from our sexuality.
So yes, no matter how awkward this conversation is going to be, you have to tell him. Today. Most guys will take this personally and become upset.
If he’s not great in bed, break it to him gently. Believe it or not, most guys don’t know much about a woman’s erogenous zones.
Then you need to tell him what you like. If you can’t tell him, show him. Guide his hands over your hot spots and teach him exactly what makes you purr (fun!).
Stop faking, stop focusing on having orgasms, and just enjoy the pleasurable sensations your body is feeling. You’ll orgasm a whole lot easier that way.
Great Sex Tip: With orgasm, a woman will experience contractions every 0.8th of a second which can be felt in her vaginal canal and rectum. A woman’s orgasm typically lasts between 13 to 51 seconds.
Why do humans have pubic hair? What is its purpose?
It seems no one (at least under 30) is letting his or her bush sprout. Instead everyone is talking about what to do with their pubes. Should I shave them? Dye them? Trim them down to a runway strip?
Experts aren’t exactly sure why we have pubic hair, but there are a few theories which seem to make sense.
The most probable is pubic hair increase the surface area of the genitals and trap sexual pheromones in the groin area. When you or a potential partner get a whiff of scentually stimulating pheromones—even through your clothing—it sends you into erotic overload.
(So, all you “Brazilians” out there might not be as “sexy” as you thought you were.)
Another theory is that pubic hair is a sign of reproductive readiness. That is, once a boy or a girl hits puberty, they are now capable of sexual interactions and pregnancy.
Other experts believe our pubic hair reduces friction between the genitals during sex.
There’s the long and skinny on your short and curlies.
Great Sex Tip: A little Penaten Cream—yes, the cream used for baby’s diaper rash—will help alleviate any road burn after pubic hair removal. Best to do this before bed as Penaten is very white; that way there will be no traces in the morning.
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Why You Shouldn’t Fake an Orgasm
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Dr. Trina Read
Dr. Trina Read has a doctorate in human sexuality. Dr. Read is also an international speaker and offers free sex and lots of other information and resources on her website www.trinaread.com. To order her book, "Til Sex Do Us Part," click here.
You can also hear more from Dr. Trina Read on the Hitched Podcast.
